Christmas is coming; sort out your child custody arrangements now to avoid conflict later
Despite everyone’s best intentions, Christmas is inevitably a stressful time for some families, especially if the child care arrangements (custody) are divided between two parents. The interruption of normal routines and the added pressure of including extended family into different arrangements can pile on even more unwanted tension.
At this time of year, online parenting forums can be a source of inspiration for other solutions to the whole ‘who has the kids for Christmas’ issue.
At online site Netmums,
“We have done Xmas Eve/Xmas daytime with one, Xmas evening/Boxing Day with the other.”
Sheri G explained that her husband’s children from a previous marriage got a ‘double deal’ each year:
“They had two Christmas days, one with us on Christmas Eve and one with Mum on Christmas Day – and two birthdays!!!”
“I only live 5 mins from my ex and felt the best thing was to split the day and alternate each year. So (with one parent) up till after lunch then swap. Kids then spend Christmas day and a meal with both of us.”
“We alternate Christmas so each year one of us will have him Christmas Eve and Christmas day, with DS1 being either picked up or dropped off at 9am Boxing Day.”
Give your family the gift of mediation
If mediation is not appropriate, we can help you in addressing the issues via correspondence. Whilst is it sometimes human nature to want to avoid dealing with the issue, proposing Christmas arrangements in good time before the actual festive season can alleviate a great deal of stress and potentially avoid costly and stressful litigation.
“When all is said and done it’s about compromises. Neither parent can have it their way. After a split it’s crucial that children are put first. That means maximising time and opportunities with each parent. Have you thought about mediation to work something out?”